Comments on: “Bedside Recollections” by Sarah Denton http://www.inmemoryofmau.com/2008/01/30/bedside-recollections-by-sarah-denton/ In loving memory of our dear friend. Mon, 20 Oct 2008 13:40:43 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Sarah http://www.inmemoryofmau.com/2008/01/30/bedside-recollections-by-sarah-denton/comment-page-1/#comment-52 Sarah Sun, 24 Feb 2008 16:00:54 +0000 http://www.inmemoryofmau.com/2008/01/30/bedside-recollections-by-sarah-denton/#comment-52 Thank you Steven and Marcy for those kind words about this writing. It was a difficult decision... knowing whether or not to post it. But in the end it felt cleansing to share those thoughts. Sarah Thank you Steven and Marcy for those kind words about this writing. It was a difficult decision… knowing whether or not to post it. But in the end it felt cleansing to share those thoughts.

Sarah

]]> By: Marcy Weinbeck http://www.inmemoryofmau.com/2008/01/30/bedside-recollections-by-sarah-denton/comment-page-1/#comment-51 Marcy Weinbeck Tue, 19 Feb 2008 03:37:58 +0000 http://www.inmemoryofmau.com/2008/01/30/bedside-recollections-by-sarah-denton/#comment-51 Sarah, I am humbled by your ability and willingness to speak your truth and share your thoughts and feelings during a period and process that most of us have never experienced. I so appreicate you saying that even while feeling honored at being included, it was not easy, that you also had thoughts of being home, safe and cozy. I am grateful for the glimpse of that place and time that is different from Gene's, as it gives me a more rounded vision. And I appreciate your words about "slowing down" enough to be present, in the moment, with a dying person. There were several times during December when I chafed, even at a distance, at the slowness of the process, unhappy at the continued pain Mau endured, and the continued efforts and also pain of those of us watching and waiting, especially of those, like you, doing the actual care-giving. You put so well, in the middle of living it, what I came around to the understanding -- that time was, indeed, slowing, and should slow, that we needed it to slow, and that all was surely progressing as it needed to, for Mau and for others. It is clear to me now that we must understand that death is not just inevitable, but should be looked forward to as part of the journey. Thank you so much for helping me clarify this with your generous sharing. Sarah, I am humbled by your ability and willingness to speak your truth and share your thoughts and feelings during a period and process that most of us have never experienced. I so appreicate you saying that even while feeling honored at being included, it was not easy, that you also had thoughts of being home, safe and cozy. I am grateful for the glimpse of that place and time that is different from Gene’s, as it gives me a more rounded vision. And I appreciate your words about “slowing down” enough to be present, in the moment, with a dying person. There were several times during December when I chafed, even at a distance, at the slowness of the process, unhappy at the continued pain Mau endured, and the continued efforts and also pain of those of us watching and waiting, especially of those, like you, doing the actual care-giving. You put
so well, in the middle of living it, what I came around to the understanding — that time was, indeed, slowing, and should slow, that we needed it to slow, and that all was surely progressing as it needed to, for Mau and for others. It is clear to me now that we must understand that death is not just inevitable, but should be looked forward to as part of the journey. Thank you so much for helping me clarify this with your generous sharing.

]]> By: Steven Trotter http://www.inmemoryofmau.com/2008/01/30/bedside-recollections-by-sarah-denton/comment-page-1/#comment-43 Steven Trotter Tue, 05 Feb 2008 14:43:15 +0000 http://www.inmemoryofmau.com/2008/01/30/bedside-recollections-by-sarah-denton/#comment-43 Sarah, thank you so much for sharing this glimpse into the process you went through as a care taker. I know we have all said this countless times now, but I feel so comforted knowing that Mau & Sasha were surrounded by "family" in this time. I'm glad they did not have to go through this experience stuck in a hospital and surrounded by people who often spout sour words at you like "it's not my job" or "it's not in the chart". I only hope that we can maintain this community that Mau has built around her and lean on each other in time's of need. Sarah, thank you so much for sharing this glimpse into the process you went through as a care taker. I know we have all said this countless times now, but I feel so comforted knowing that Mau & Sasha were surrounded by “family” in this time. I’m glad they did not have to go through this experience stuck in a hospital and surrounded by people who often spout sour words at you like “it’s not my job” or “it’s not in the chart”. I only hope that we can maintain this community that Mau has built around her and lean on each other in time’s of need.

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